Showing posts with label cancer. Show all posts
Showing posts with label cancer. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Our Words Can Outlive Us...


Often throughout the year, I think of my friend, Vienna Hagen, who left this world far too soon. She fought an amazing fight with a cancer that was only accidentally discovered and blazed out in wonder, love, and shear crazy glory for the days remaining to her. That woman sure knew how to live in the face of damn near anything.

Always the brave one, Vienna, liked being a trailblazer. So, it is only fitting that she be the first (& possibly last) posthumous guest writer on my blog. Here is something she wrote a few years ago. Still one of my favorite pieces about Fall. Enjoy.

And remember, you never know how what you say or write will come back to haunt somebody...

Fall Happens
by Vienna Hagen


There is a night when fall happens. Neither a function of calendars, nor exactly weather, seasons, like Mary Poppins, arrive when the wind changes. Spring comes in the morning, with the soft scent of damp earth and the glimpse of a green bud. Summer arrives one day at noon, with a dry sky and a single bead of sweat. Winter sneaks up and slides in with the cottony sound that muffles the world right before it snows, but fall happens at night.

One night, after a warm day when it seems that summer is never going to end, autumn dances in. Fall is not a thief, like winter, nor blatant as the summer, instead it is a gypsy, strong and sure. “Come” it says, “see my pretties! I have colors galore, and tastes! I have glowing lights and magical bells! Come and share!”

On the night that fall comes, the breeze shifts, becomes, even if for but a moment, a wind. In the blink of an eye, the air turns crisp and sharp. The lingering dusty warmth of summer is swept away, and leaves, even though still green, suddenly rustle as though they were made of paper, no longer liquid and growing, but all, as if on cue, beginning the countdown to falling in multi-hued mountains for use as the landing zones of childhood, and the funeral pyres of summer vacation.

Apples are just the fruit needed by fall. Strawberries are too soft and sweet, designed for the wedding of spring to summer. Peaches, watermelon, nectarines are all for quenching the thirsty days of July and August, but apples are for fall. Tart skin snaps when you bite into it, like the little slap of cool air on your face on a clear autumn day. Apples are solid, and can stand up to a frosty morning. Apples have character.

The window stood open after a warm, lazy day and it was too much of an effort to close it, so after the sun went down, fall waltzed in. A sudden, almost imagined chill brushed through, and the tree outside creaked a little as though feeling its age. In a subtle instant, it was time to take the blanket down off the shelf where it had lived since the day the forsythia popped open like corn. Lemonade was no longer the thing. Ice cube trays that had been freshly filled might remain so now for months. One lone fly that had gotten in the day before and entertained the cats enormously now, suddenly, disappeared.

Outside, leaves clattered, calling attention to themselves as if knowing that the curtain was about to go up on their final, but most spectacular performance. Insect choruses packed their bags and gave in to the inevitable. Lightening bugs conceded defeat for the year. Air that had been leaden and flat became crystalline and bounced off the tip of the nose. Last night, fall happened.




Ah... Vienna. The world is such a poorer place without you, my friend. I can still see you standing buck-naked in your graduation robe. Gotta' love a redhead!

peace,
Janice


Monday, March 17, 2014

The Passing On of A Friend

A couple of weeks ago, I had a shamanic healer tell me to keep a look out for a girl, a piece of paper, and an owl. Weird, I know. And he, the shaman, is a trustworthy sort and really knows his stuff. So, I have been holding that loosely in the back corner of my mind ever since.

This past Friday, when I woke up, I noticed that the world seemed quieter for some reason. Not making much of the observation, I went on with my day, went to the office to treat a few folks then had plans to go play chess with my friend, Penny.

About midday, I saw a text from my dear friend, Marty. Our beloved Vienna Hagan (formerly Helen Sacher) had died quietly in her sleep early that morning.

My heart broke open. Wide. Painful yes... and painful like bright light can be painful... not painful like a tearing away. The sensation was so different from anything I had felt before with grief, even knowing each time is different. I was awed. It was expansive not contractive. Weird. And I just let it be as I cried great gulping sobs for the loss of my friend and really, for the world's loss.

You see, Vienna was one of the great lights in the world. Her spirit – or shen as we say in Chinese Medicine – was so clear, it radiated happiness and love to the whole world. Not in a cheesy, intentional way – just by being who she was. She was a big, red-headed girl in her 40's who loved life and everyone in it. She embraced adventure and was very, very brave. Especially in the face of the cancer that finally took her life. So much so that she truly lived for over two years after being diagnosed, rather than the handful of months they gave her to survive.

As I sat looking for words to describe the expansive feeling in my chest, I looked up and there pinned above my desk amidst a bunch of other stuff was a piece of paper with an owl on it that said:

Miracles start to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams as you do to your fears.

And I began to laugh. Loudly. In equal volume to my sobs from a moment before. Vienna had such a great sense of humor! And that quote was a real smack in the head. It sounded just like her.

It became clear to me that her light had just grown so bright that a body couldn’t contain it any longer. And when she died, I had been lucky enough to get a refracted piece of that light that opened my heart wide. What joy!

I spent the rest of the day smiling. And feeling as though I had been given my marching orders. Those of us who were lucky enough to be touched by the beautiful spirit that was Vienna Hagen have a mandate. Or at least, I do. It is now my responsibility to continue to carry that joy and wonder out into the world. That is the best memorial a girl could ask for.

It has been several days now, and the feeling persists. I am no longer asking, “If not now, when?” because now is it – in a very visceral way, I am forever changed.

I wish you all much light and love and laughter. And look out for miracles...

peace,

Janice